All differences between men and women
People in relationships often have strong expectations that their partner will be just like they are: exhibit the same attitudes, values, behaviors and perceptions. However, we know that you will not change your partner's attitudes and behaviors unless they themselves are motivated to do so. You are even less likely to change their basic gender characteristics. So it is very important to educate yourself as to the basic gender differences which exist between men and women, and accept the fact that the differences are there, they are real, and they are not going away. In this way you can learn to use the differences as a way to enrich your relationship rather than to damage it.
Are Men and Women really different? Let's look at the evidence in a variety of areas of life. Note that these findings are generalizations and summaries that apply to most men or women, but not to all men or all women.
Let’s view all differences from the beginning like physical differences and ending the ways to enrich relationship between men and women.
1.Physiological differences
• Girls develop right side of brain faster than boys: leads to talking, pronunciation, vocabulary, reading earlier, and better memory.
• Boys develop left side faster than girls: visual-spatial-logical skills, perceptual skills, better at math, building and figuring out puzzles.
• Girls more interested in playing with stuffed animals and dolls more; toys with faces than boys.
• Women use both hemispheres of brain.
2. Social differences
Studies of infants:
• Both men and women speak louder to boys than girl infants; they are softer and express more "cooing" with girls. Boys are rarely told they are sweet and pretty; boys are usually told "Hey big guy".
• Girls are caressed and stroked more than boys in childhood.
• Boys handled more physically and robustly work than girls, bounced around more than girls.
• Up to age 2, mothers tend to talk to and look at their daughters significantly more then they do with their sons, and have more eye contact with the daughters.
• Mothers show a wider range of emotional response to girls than boys. When girls showed anger, mothers’ faces showed greater facial expression of disapproval than when boys showed anger. May influence why girls grow up smiling more, more social, and better able to interpret emotions than boys.
• Fathers use "Command terms" with boys more than girls; and more than mothers gave.
Evolutional differences between boys and girls:
• Educational system, nursery rhymes, books and cartoons perpetuate stereotypes, which often promote damsel in distress, frumpy housewife, helpless senior citizen, sexy heroine and swooning cheerleader.
• Girls use more terms of endearment than boys.
• Boys get away with more aggressive antisocial behavior in school and home than girls.
• Girls- tomboys are accepted by society; boys who act like girls are severely reprimanded ("Don't cry"! "Don't be a cissy"!).
• Girls tend to talk about other people; secrets in order to bond friendships; and school, wishes or needs. Boys talk about things and activities mostly; what they are doing and who is best at the activity.
• Teenage girls talk about boys, weight and clothes. Teenage boys talk about mechanics, sports, and function of different things.
• Age 12-18: biggest event for girls: have a boyfriend; age 12-18: boys are equally interested in the following: sex, sports and cars.
• This carries into adulthood when women talk about relationships, people, diet, clothing, and physical appearance. Men talk about sports, work, money, cars, girls, politics, and the mechanics of things.
3. Adults: self esteems and values
Women:
• A woman's sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. They spend much time supporting, nurturing and helping each other. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.
• Self expression, in clothes and feelings, is very important. Communication is also important. Talking, sharing and relating is how a woman feels good about herself.
• Women value love, beauty and relationships and communication,.
• For women, offering help is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength.
• Women are very highly concerned about issues relating to physical attractiveness; changes in this area can be as difficult for women.
Men
• A man's self-esteem is defined through his ability to achieve results and achievements. Achieve goals and prove his competence and feel good about himself.
• In general, men are more interested in objects and things rather than in people or feelings.
• To feel good about himself men must achieve goals by themselves only with no help of friends or partners. For men, doing things by themselves is a symbol of efficiency, power and competence.
• Men are more aggressive and more combative than women.
• Men's self esteem is more career-related.
• Men rarely talk about their problems unless they are seeking advice; asking for help when you can do something yourself is close to weakness.
• Men feel devastated by failure and financial setbacks; they tend to obsess about money much more than women as it marks them as man.
• Men hate to ask for information because it shows they are a failure.
4. Some more other differences
• Men are more logical, analytical, and rational. Women are more intuitive, creative, and integrative.
• Men have a much more difficult time relating to their own feelings, and may feel very threatened by the expression of feelings in their presence.
• Men are actually more vulnerable and dependent on relationships than women are and are more devastated by the ending, since they have fewer friends and sources of emotional support.
• Men are more at ease with their own angry feelings than women are.
• Women are in touch with a much wider range of feelings than men, and the intensity of those feelings is usually much greater for women than men. As a result of this, many men perceive that women's feelings appear to change quickly; men may find this irrational and difficult to understand.
• Men tend to be more functional in approaching problem-solving; women are aesthetically-oriented in addition to being functional.
• Women tend to be much more sensitive to sounds and smells than men are; and women as such tend to place a greater emphasis on "atmosphere".
